After our miscarriage at 7 weeks, my husband I were devastated. However, we our faith brought us out of the depths of our grief relatively quickly. We wanted to try again. I asked my fertility specialist doctor how long my husband and I had to wait after our miscarriage to try again “safely.”
Here’s the note I got from my doctor’s office:
“…we need to follow your HCG levels until negative. Please go today or tomorrow for another level. The order is in. Then you will have to wait until your second normal period to start trying again.”
But why can’t we try again right now? And further, is it okay for my husband and I to have unprotected sex before my “second normal period” just because…well…we’re married?
I needed more information, so this is what I found:
- According to WebMD, “There is no medical benefit to waiting,” WebMD recommends that making sure you’re recovered emotionally, then have at.
- According to a study from the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development in Bethesda, Maryland, “…there is no physiologic reason for delaying pregnancy attempt after a loss,” apart from grief, of course.
- According to the American Pregnancy Association, healthcare providers normally suggest a few months in order to give a woman’s body time to heal in order to prevent complications with a following pregnancy. However, the same article states that “at least 85% of women who have had one loss will go on to have a successful pregnancy the next time, as will 75% of those who have experienced two or three losses.”
Last, according to a study (2010) appearing in The BMJ, “…women who conceive within six months after a miscarriage are less likely to miscarry again or experience other pregnancy-related complications when compared with women who wait for longer periods of time.”
It seems as though the data from credible sources are saying that having sex sooner is fine, and in some studies even better than waiting. However, the big takeaway is to make sure your emotionally and mentally prepared for a 15% miscarriage rate. Understand you have a 1/6 chance of having your pregnancy end in loss again. As soon as you can accept that, I’d say you’re ready.
So I suppose we’re already ready already 😉